It is one of the greatest struggles in a dad's life. You want to give more time to your family. You know they need more of your time. You know they deserve it. You really want to spend more time with them.
But... the demands of work always seem to keep you too busy. You may work for a "Type A" boss who continually creates more workload than you can possibly fit into your week. Perhaps your job requires frequent traveling out of town. Maybe you work on commission and the financial pressure keeps you perpetually focused on making sales. Or perhaps you have a very high standard of excellence in your work, or not enough staff to share your workload, or big vision and ideas for your company, or you just never seem to get caught up on your inbox.
What's The Solution?
Call it what you want -- pressure, turmoil, tension, or conflict -- it is very real. Unfortunately, failing to address this issue, or addressing it poorly, can be one of the greatest mistakes of your entire life. This is worth repeating: Failure to address this issue of balancing work and family can be one of the greatest mistakes of your entire life. If you make wrong choices, here is what you can can expect to happen:
1. Years later, perhaps decades, you will look back with much regret. And it will be too late then.
2. You could lose your marriage.
3. You may lose your kid's hearts, permanently.
4. You will fail to maximize your role as a husband, father, and family leader.
Below are resources that can HELP you addres this issue of balancing family and work. Each one of them is here very intentionally and strongly recommended. Start taking action now!
Excellent Resources That Can Help You
Ryan is married with 4 children, a best-selling author, speaker, consultant, and owns numerous online businesses, yet is home every day at 5pm for dinner, takes his wife out on regular weekly dates, and even coaches his children's soccer and lacrosse teams. He hosts weekly online coaching sessions where he teaches proven strategies to create more time for your family by LEVERAGING your time, working smarter, and generating more income. What Ryan teaches has worked over and over again for many of his students. (And no, it's NOT multi-level marketing!) Learn More
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Choosing To Cheat: Who Wins When Family and Work Collide by Andy Stanley
Andy Stanley has spent hundreds of hours with men and women who have cheated their families for the sake of their career goals. They all admitted knowing there was a problem. This is not a struggle of just some small segment of society. We all wrestle with the tension between work and family. Regardless of which side of the equation you are on, you know what it is like to deal with the endless cycle of guilt, anger, jealousy, and rejection. This book offers practical insights and a strategic plan.
Father Power by Todd Wilson
This book opened my heart to the tremendous influence I have in the lives of my children -- and not just during the child raising years. What we do as dads during this very limited window of time has ongoing influence through multiple generations of our family. This discovery of "father power" at the heart level must precede any significant sustainable change in the area of balancing work and family.
For many dads, the issue of balancing work and family is really just a symptom of a greater, but more subtle root issue -- materialism and serving mammon. The spiritual power behind money can influence the choices we make with our time, our schedule, our spending, and consequently our family. This is a radically different book that will challenge your thinking about money and your job (or business if you are self-employed.)
Getting Things Done By David Allen
This #1 Bestseller gives practical help with how to be more productive in your day. If you aren't able to get enough work done to leave work on time for your family, learn this simple organizational system that has helped countless people around the world.
Work vs Family: Which Is More Important? What is really at stake in this struggle between work and family
Decision-Making Process For Dads Input from a dad that may help you in making a career or job change for your family.
Amazing Story From Work A dad in Texas shares a shocking story that recently happened at the company where he works.
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This section will have input from dads who have successfully addressed this issue of balancing work and family. Learn what other dads have done that has worked for their family. Please contact us if your have a success story of how you manage work and family.
Work At Home Dads and Family Businesses
For many dads, working at home or having a family-run business is a dream come true. It can offer much more freedom and flexibility to spend time as a family, take vacations, and even allow your children to apprentice you and learn what you do. In this section, we will offer resources and insights for dads who want to work at home, dads who already do, and dads who have family-run businesses in their homes.
This page is a work in progress. We will be adding more articles, audios, videos, testimonials, and resources to this page over time.